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Situation Rehearsal: The Most Powerful Exercise for Becoming a Better Mother

Parenting is filled with first-time situations, unexpected reactions, and moments where we wish we had handled things differently. As mothers, we often find ourselves repeating patterns from our own upbringing - sometimes without even realizing it. But what if we could rewrite those patterns and create better responses?

The answer lies in a simple yet powerful technique: Situation Rehearsal

This method, backed by neuroscience and explained in Joe Dispenza’s book, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, allows us to train our minds to respond differently in challenging situations. It’s about taking those moments of regret and turning them into learning opportunities not just for our children, but for ourselves.

Why Situation Rehearsal Works

Our minds work on autopilot, running the same subconscious programs we developed in childhood. When we face a stressful moment - our child misbehaves, spills something, refuses to listen - we react as we were programmed to react. That might mean yelling, punishing, or acting in a way we later regret.


But the brain is adaptable. We can train it to choose better responses by rehearsing alternative scenarios.


Every time you regret a reaction, take a moment to mentally replay the situation differently.
Imagine yourself responding with calm, patience, and understanding.
Think of all the possible good responses you could have given.
This creates new neural connections - rewiring your brain to choose better responses in the future.


When you do this regularly, your brain learns from these imagined experiences, treating them as real practice. The next time a similar situation happens, you’ll instinctively choose a better reaction.

How to Practice Situation Rehearsal

You can practice this exercise anytime throughout the day. Some great moments to do it include:

Before bed - Reflect on the day and mentally replay moments you want to improve. 
Immediately after a mistake - Instead of guilt, use the moment as a learning opportunity.
While cooking or doing chores - Use these moments to run through better scenarios.
When supervising your child - Mentally practice how you want to respond next time.
Instead of watching a show - Replace passive entertainment with active self-improvement.


You’ll start noticing plenty of moments in your day to practice without it feeling like extra effort.

What Happens in Your Brain When You Do This?

Every time you imagine a better version of an interaction, your brain:

Creates new neural pathways - These new circuits wire and fire together, making it easier for your brain to access them when needed.
Strengthens positive connections - The more you rehearse good reactions, the more automatic they become.
Reduces negative reactions - Over time, your default reactions shift from frustration to patience, from yelling to guiding.
Boosts confidence - Each small win builds trust in yourself, reinforcing the belief that you can be the mother you want to be.

This method doesn’t just erase bad habits, it replaces them with better ones. The more you practice, the easier and more natural these positive responses become.

The Power of Small Wins

Parenting is a journey, not a destination. You don’t have to be perfect you just need to be better than yesterday.

Each time you successfully choose a better response, you gain a small win. Over time, these small wins accumulate, creating a new version of you a more patient, calm, and confident mother.

So next time you feel regret about how you handled a situation, don’t dwell in guilt. Instead, take 30 seconds to rehearse a better response.


This simple practice can transform your parenting, your mindset, and your relationship with your children.


Start today. Rehearse. Improve. Become the mother you want to be.

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