360° Motherhood Evolution

If you have any pain during your period

Let’s talk about the real causes of menstrual pains, which will help you identify yours and methods of healing yourself.

Causes:
Menstrual pains come mainly from:

1. Refusal of being a girl;

2.The initial shock of having it the first time at around 12 years old, as no one explained anything about it;

3.The belief that tie up menstruation with pain as this is all you see around;

4.Triggers like seeing blood associated with trauma

1.Refusal of being a girl

In some societies, being a girl is considered hard and shameful. Especially when our first period comes, in a time where we are all just friends on the street, not really being aware about the differences between boys and girls. So we try to deny the period which is a clear sign that we have to accept being a woman from that moment on. Nothing more is being explained usually and it’s considered bothersome. It interrupts our playful life, our good mood. It’s something else we have to take care of, which the boys don’t have. They can live their ignorant life as kids continuously, while we have to take care of this and go through it, wait for it to finish, then we are normal again, then we are interrupted again and again. It’s a cycle. Then, as we grow, we see that, as women, we need to attend other things about ourselves again to fit the society pattern like straight hair, make-up, getting rid of hair in “not accepted” parts of the body, dye our hair just because, we are expected to… an infinite list which just grows as we grow.
So…we hate being girls. And what is the most pregnant thing about being a girl? Having a menstrual cycle. So that’s the first thing we are against. We have put all kind of bad feelings into this cycling period, like anger, frustration, sadness, our plans ruined. And those hurt.

How to heal this?

Instead on focusing on the negative, start training your mind to see the positive of what it means to be a girl and reclaim your power.
What is there positive you might ask. Well…
How about…
The beautiful shape of the woman’s body?
The power we have over men?
The instincts that we have?
The creation goddess that we are?
The easiness on creating another human being in our body without actively participating other than the moment of conception?
The fact that we can wear all marvelous colored dresses, skirts and shoes?
That we can really do it all as it’s in our power as goddesses but we choose not to, so that our we use our extensions (men) to their full power as well, let them flourish so we can admire and love them deeply? To feel them our protectors and feel safe with them, and just expand under their amazing masculinity?

The first time I accepted my body being a woman is after the second child was born. My first is a boy, the second a girl. And I was so happy I succeeded having both genders. I felt proud of my body that it, on its own, knew how to create such beautiful perfect beings. This realization happened at night, when I was actively working on embracing being a woman. For the first time, I feeling love for my body. I was not mad at it anymore. Do you want to know what else unlocked that night? Something I experienced for the first time in my live. Send me a message in the chat.
So basically I struggled accepting I was a girl for 30 years. But at least I know why. Let me explain.

When I was born, as a second child, my father expected me to be a boy.

For the next ALL of my birthdays he always told me the story of how disappointed he was that I wasn’t born as a boy. So I always wanted to make him happy and be his boy that he never get to have. I behaved as one, and I always wished to be one. I also suffered my father’s suffering, that I wasn’t a boy. He never let me have short hair, at least, he said girls should have long hair. My mother didn’t and this bothered him.
When I got my period, I was totally against it, and only deepened my suffering about being a girl. So it was totally normal that I had pains.
There was also the cause of a trauma when I was little, and I associated the sight of blood with that trauma, so the reliving of the trauma each month was causing me to have a fever with the chills, squirming, sharp pains for 2-3 days. These symptoms also made me hate on my period even more, thus hating my whole experience of womanhood.

How to release other’s expectations

We are always hearing this “go to the inner self” but what does that actually mean? A part of it is having conversations in your mind.
The first thing that started to repair my womanhood was starting to embrace the fact that my body was a woman in this life. 
I had to: have conversations with my mind, with my soul, with my feelings.
I also had to shift perspectives and look into the life of my father, not only from my narrow point of view.
I had to talk to myself about how my father and I are different people, how was my being born as an experience for him, how much or little he has succeeded in life, how were his feelings about different chapters of this life, 
I also had to talk to my mind about how I chose to be a girl for this current life’s lessons and how that’s been for me, and what people I met and who’s lives I helped shift, and what are the reasons for me to be a girl that are actually great.

How to heal from trauma

I also had to talk to my child self about those episodes in life that involved blood.
One method is to go, as an adult self, to that child self, in that memory and give yourself what you did not have. Like explanations, support, a long hug, a safe space to process those emotions in order to be able to let them go then and not carry them through years. 
In my case, I had to go in several memories that involved blood and explain every time why that happened, what is blood and how it works, be there to listen to my child’s self grief, sadness, fright and hold the space by just being there and offering a safe space for that child to understand that those emotions are ok to feel, as a normal processing of what happened. By feeling them all the way through, until they disappear on their own. That is “processing” or “letting go” and not holding them in. This is healing. Feel them all the way through and be with your feelings, embrace them, as they are just energy passing through. Feel it, then let it go. I remind you that there are no bad and good feelings, they are all neutral from the soul perspective, and need to be experienced.


It is also important to explain why that happened. 
So, maybe it was a natural consequence of your own actions, or something that happened to you.
In the first case, that is easy to explain, but if it’s something that happened to you, then you have to take a more spiritual approach. As we come as child souls into this planet, we have many lives because to learn all the lessons of this School Planet, we need more lives than just one. So, all of us, will go thought all sorts of experiences. There are no good or bad experiences/lessons, they are all neutral, the good or bad is a label of the human mind. Before this lifetime, you chose the lessons that you need to have together with the other souls that “help” you to get them. The reasons why… will appear later in life. It is your choice what you do with the experience. The victim approach only pulls in other negative experiences, whereas the “I am bigger than what happened to me” is the opposite. More on this explained in the Hu(e)man Evolution part of the website.

Another method is changing the past, (but only after healing the first version, if we are talking about something traumatic.)
This is good for changing the feelings related to that memory. They decrease in intensity and eventually dissipate.
Basically, you use two major powers of your mind, the memory and imagination.
You go into the memory and with your imagination, you try to find other positive scenarios ones that either reshape the situation or introduce different choices that could have prevented it from happening in the first place. Do not relive the memory as is, because when seeing a memory you also feel it. The scope is to change how you feel, so look for alternatives to make you feel better.

You may have to go as your adult self to your child self many times until you succeed to provide everything you needed. Do this in your own time, but remember that it depends solely on you on how quickly you can heal. It is directly proportional to the time you put into your own healing.
Usually, it takes only a few times to think about it and resolve it over a short period of time, over 2 weeks, even a month if it’s something deeper. But have those conversations with yourself, go into your past, and put in the work. You are responsible for your own life, and only you can help yourself. You are the one living in that body, projecting into your own life your own truths about it, contained by your unique mind.

2.The initial shock of having it the first time at around 12 years old

The first time you get your period and no-one has explained what that means and when to expect it before it actually happens for the first time, it is a shock. You don’t know where that comes from, you believe it’s dark pee, as it’s never real red in the first months until it installs properly. Not understanding what it is, then having it dismissed by your mother, without any explanations. She just gives you some pads but does not explain how to use them, so you get stained at school, which is every girl’s nightmare. You associate feelings of uncertainty, shock, not knowing how to handle it so that you feel it as something safe, and something that is liable while you have it. Causes pain. Being scared about heavy flow in “not-at-home” situations;

How to heal this

You need to understand the beliefs that your own mother had about “periods”. Maybe that was what happened to her as well, maybe the belief that it a shameful subject that must be avoided of all costs etc. Having this perspective will help you understand that phase you were going through and disassociate the shameful feelings around the subject, the inability to talk about it which also implies looking for information to sew this knowledge gap, which makes your life better. Understanding your period, what it means, when it starts as the beginning of the reproductive part of your life, when it ends, how it ends, the different phases you go through each month and how it affects your mood, personality, productivity. I explain the monthly phases better on the Nutrition Course on this website. Yes, because we need to understand how to eat correctly according to the cycle phases, as this governs a big chunk of our life.

3.The belief that ties up menstruation with pain as this is all you see around

This belief is heavily circulated in society and we never see something else. Colleagues that prefer to stay at home in those days and come up with any reason to skip school, the all around adds with pills and other products to reduce the pain, the mother that tells you to shut up and take it as this is the life of a woman. We basically are raised in this belief which has become a deeply ingrained subconscious programming. (I’ll help you get rid of it).
The first time when I saw someone who did not have any period pain, I was in high-school, when a close friend from our group of 4 did not ever complain about her period, whereas the other 3 of us always suffered heavily. When asking her about it, as we never knew when she had it as it was unnoticeable and never complained, I was left in a state of shock, not understanding how that is possible, and also a state of contemplation about how easy life must be for her. She never had pains with her flow.

4. Triggers like seeing blood associated with trauma.

If you had a few experiences where your blood flow was too heavy and this caused you to run away from school, or needing to hide your pants with some blouse, this caused panic. 

If you had other, more deeply ingrained trauma like rapes, or accidents that involved blood, even the birth of your own children, c-section, or natural birth that ended not so great, even a miscarry, then the sight of blood causes symptoms every time. It’s like you would be “allergic” to seeing the blood because the first time it happened you had certain feelings about the event. As we should know by now, feelings are energy, which if not dealt with, stagnates in the body and transform into symptoms. Seeing blood over and over again, trigger those symptoms, which is nothing else but the same old energy that got stuck in there and never processed.
Identifying triggers can be done by eliminating one by one. But start with the most obvious: blood, then continue with smell, the sensation of feeling dirty, moisture, even pads.
How to eliminate these triggers: switch from pads to tampons - this will minimize the sight of blood. If you have negative beliefs about tampons, get rid of them. The smell of blood can also be eliminated with tampons but also perfumed pads and making sure to clean with water and intimate gel. Moisture - just change often. Tampons solve many triggers. Getting rid of triggers will mean that you have no symptoms.

How to heal

Make your mind a friend. As we know, the mind is the projector of our life. What beliefs lie in there is what we see in our external life with our eyes. Having conversations with your mind, in time, it will turn your mind into a friend, with beliefs that actually serve your life, meaning that your life will be projected nicely, according to your real desires.
Desire, in this case, getting rid of period pain, must be aligned with the beliefs about menstruation, which in turn must be aligned with what you feel about your period, and aligned with actions.

Let’s dive into this. What does alignment mean in this case? 

Here is the blueprint on how to work on this.
Read in 1st person so you begin to absorb these beliefs. 

My desire is clear: experience period with ease. With no negative sensation whatsoever.
My current beliefs: that period hurts every time I get it. That every woman experiences pain with menstruation. That I experience pain the first 2 days of my period and I can’t get out of my house.

These beliefs must be changed into the beliefs I need in my life so that I project the positive desire I have.

My aligned beliefs would look like this: I can have a period without any pain. My next periods are free, experienced with easiness and constant, beautiful flow. My body releases my period with ease and the confidence that it’s easy! No sensation exists while the uterus does its job. I feel great, and I have energy to enjoy life. I feel good and I have now entered my ascending phase of the cycle, which means my creativity grows, I feel better and better with my mood, my energy levels. I am easy going and loving. I can move with confidence, I can do whatever I am in the mood for. I am aware that I am on my period but this does not bother me. It’s there, it does its job and I feel great as always.


What I felt: Fear and dread that my period is coming, a cringe sensation, hate.


What I need to feel to be aligned: Ease, I don’t care, I feel great anyway.

What I felt in my body: symptoms like bloating, diarrhea, pain.
What I feel now in my body to be aligned: just a small sensation in the beginning when my period lets me know it’s coming. That’s it.

Actions I used to take: cancel everything that is outside of my house, prepare my anti-pain pills, use the heating pillow.


Actions I am taking now: buying my favorite tampons and arranging them beautifully.
Switching pads for tampons, or use them in tandem to feel safe. Waiting for my period happily as it know it marks the beginning of my amazing phase.

Making your mind a friend means having conversations with it, and mostly about beliefs. You will see that your mind will bring thoughts to you that are still from the old beliefs that you are trying to get rid of. So, talk to your mind and bring reasons to convince it about your new beliefs you want to install, remind it about your desire and what you are working towards. Correct the thoughts, reaffirm the new beliefs.

There will be a transition period as you work on your new beliefs and you are designing your new reality. It tales time to get rid of old beliefs and install new ones. But you will succeed.

How you take care of your body also matters:

Nutrition: taking care of your period means eating according to your cycle phases so that you give your body the nutrients it needs to build the interior lining of the uterus every month, and then shedding it. It is not an easy mission to build that without any support, so make sure you eat right, because if not, then your body will deplete you of energy, then you won’t know why you want to sleep more than usual, because your body is prioritizing the built of cells and taking glucose from your daily energy levels. So make sure you eat just enough to have energy for everything your body needs and then what you also need to support your daily activities. Read more on the 360ME Nutrition.

Movement: is also a big part of the health picture of your period. As it is a part of the optimization of the body, so everything works correctly, giving you the best quality of life. Take time to know your body so that you experience in this life how it is to live in a high quality body! Life is so much more beautiful and easy, and you should totally not miss that.

Sex: is stabilizing your hormones whether you like it or not. It gives you balance in moods, energy and makes a better cycle.

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