Become a Better Mother
Listen to Their Wishes with No Obligation
Do you know that uncomfortable feeling when your child comes to you and tells you what they want next?
I noticed it in myself, and it was really uncomfortable. My immediate reaction was to shut them down, not to listen, to tell them I can’t, that I don’t have money, that it doesn’t make sense, that they’ll get bored, that they’ll break it… whatever.
And the truth is, I wasn’t listening.
The child didn’t feel heard. Tears followed. Frustration. Tension.
Then I realized something simple, yet profound:
What if I just listened… without saying anything?
Without feeling obligated to fulfill the wish instantly.
And, most importantly, without the guilt of “I can’t,” without the pressure to find solutions on the spot, without the thought that I have to spend money again on something that will be broken too quickly.
What if I just listened?
I started doing that.
At first it was hard, because I had the impression that if I didn’t say anything, they would assume I agreed. So I started asking questions:
What color would it be? How would you play with it? What would you do first?
From a simple desire, a real conversation was born.
The child? Extremely happy. Satisfied that they were listened to. Many times, they were already playing with that toy in their imagination, just through the conversation.
The next day… another toy. Another beautiful conversation.
Combined with the method of earning their own money for material desires, we can even scroll online together with no pressure at all.
What happens when you listen without heavy feelings?
The child learns that they can share their wishes and dreams without the fear that mom or dad will shut them down instantly.
In the long run, they will know that their desires are safe when spoken.
That they are heard. That they are supported. And sometimes, they may even receive ideas on how to make them real. That they can share their dreams…
Now they are small. Simple. Mostly toys, maybe. But they will grow bigger and bigger.
And they will know that you can hold them.
If you don’t create space for the small ones, why would you expect that, when they grow up, they will come to you with the big ones?
That is… wow.
And that’s what I want you to take with you.
Because this value lasts a lifetime.
Yours. And theirs.
