Stuck In: “This Is Me”?

People are often stuck in the belief that “I’m not changing,” “this is who I am,” and that’s what keeps their life on the same page… they never get to turn it.

You have to adopt the belief that we are changing every day anyway.

But indeed, the amount depends entirely on you.

Then you have to make the “next page” as clear as possible so you won’t be afraid to turn it.

The unknown keeps us stuck so often.

But if you have clarity… then it’s easy to move forward.

For example, at some point, I decided to move to Bali. All 5 of us.

I had never traveled to another continent. Never flown with my kids.

I always had this belief in my head:

“Better to stay on the same continent — if something really bad happens, at least I’d be able to get home on foot, even if it takes a while. I’ll be home again.”

So I was stuck in the beliefs of:

“home = safety”, “anywhere else is not safe”… sooo deeply that I had fears emerging from those inner beliefs and familiarity — fears that kept me stuck for 34 years in the same room.

Don’t get me started on the fact that even going to the park with 2–3 kids felt like an energy drain so immense I needed two weeks to recover.

So what did I do?

(We often do this for vacations, but we don’t name it consciously - we just feel the internal need.

So why not go through this process in every category of life?)

I started to make Bali familiar.

How?

By looking at accommodations, prices, and other people’s reviews about traveling with kids and living in Bali.

I also felt the need to see how the streets looked, and I couldn’t find that easily.

And when I did, it was very little.

I needed much more.

I had to be able to see myself getting places through those streets.

This is one reason I started to post more Bali street videos on Instagram than anything else — how it looks from the car or a motorbike… because I couldn’t find that content.

That was me satisfying my own need in the past and thinking maybe other people need this too.

Huh. Now I realize that back then I didn’t even have the “search on social media” option in my head. I didn’t use it, didn’t know it existed.

I only used YouTube and followed one account of someone I knew who lived there.

How great the world is… and how small it can be in our minds at the same time.

So ask yourself this question:

How can I make this dream familiar?

And write down all the ways to do it, so you’re not stuck with only two tiny resources like I was. The more you can take in, the more familiar it becomes, the faster it will happen.

We also had a timeline.

We started preparing in the spring, and by late autumn, it “manifested.” (Manifestation is just you…aligned. All parts of you. You have many parts.)

Everything step came at the right time — we were already living there in our minds.

Build a schedule you actually believe you can accomplish.

That’s another thing people miss: don’t set impossible things that your mind doesn’t believe.

Beliefs I already had through experience — and some I needed to adopt:

Life with kids is hard anywhere, so whatever.

Life gets to an end pretty easily, so make it amazing.

I am safe anywhere.

We are all one, so wherever I am, I am safe.

Home is this planet.

Thoughts I want to have when I’m old and dying:

Fuck yeah — I lived!

Feelings: I’m content.

So… are you ready to build your newest self?

Join my course!

I’ll guide you through the framework — through all the categories of life — defining, identifying the old, installing the new, prepping your body to receive so you don’t jinx it, and practice daily exercises that help you recognize the old identity and shift into the new one, while feeling great doing it.