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How to make birth painless

Thoughts create reality, so what you think about birth (now) would shape your upcoming birth.

The good news is that I succeed in reshaping what I believed about birth so I could create 3 out of 3 amazing painless births, and I want to teach you the process of achieving that in my ebook Change Your Mind About Birth and thoughout these articles.

As a short guide, you need to:

Verify what your beliefs about birth are now,
Put positive beliefs in the place of the negative ones,
Identify your fears and attain knowledge to make those fears disspate,
Read only beautiful birth stories to create your own in your imagination and relive it over and over again,
Associate the easiness of birth with training your breath and push every time you go number 2,
Choose a place for give birth and people to give birth with and make them familiar and trust them.

You need more explanations? Please get my ebook where everything is detailed and let us make the world a better place with giving birth to new people that don’t start with traumas in their new lives. And let us, as mothers, live the best experience we can offer ourselves.

Here is a list of the most common beliefs rooted in personal experiences around you, societal narratives, or lack of proper support and education about the birthing process that you might have, and how to transform them into positive ones:

The first step is to find out more about birth in that regard, as knowledge is power, involves radical transformation and usually just dismantles the fraudulent beliefs from your mind.

  1. Birth will be unbearably painful.

    This belief is imprinted in our brains from movies or stories. And is false. 
    Natural, unhindered birth is far from painful. It is peaceful, relaxed, easy and flowing. It feels beautiful and full of love. It is the end process of sex, intimacy and love.
    Let me explain why pain exists in some birth stories. It has 2 main reasons: first, the person associated pain with birth and beliefs shape own reality. Second, the mother does not feel safe (whether is an unfamiliar place or people, so the hormones have put a pause in the process until it can resume in a safe place) and the doctors will give medications which force the process against its natural protection system, thus the pain.

    So, turn this belief into positive:

Birth is easy, flowing, it is a safe and beautiful process that leads to meeting your baby.

  1. Complications are inevitable.

    If you don’t know anything about birth and choose to let yourself in other people’s hands. Your experience will be shaped by your unconscious beliefs about birth and by the co-created reality system you are in with the others you put your trust in.

  1. My body might fail me during labor.

    Fail is actually protection. Your body does not feel safe in this God given creation process that it stops the birth. Why do people assume that if the birth process starts, it cannot be stopped? It will stop/restart as many times as you feel unsafe then safe again.


    Turn it this into:

My body carries the ancestral knowledge on how to give birth within itself and does so beautifully. I trust my body entirely that it can pass my baby in my arms so easily and relaxed.

  1. I’ll need an emergency C-section.

    This is a belief caused by the lack of knowledge regarding the real motives of a major operation. Read all about it and you’ll know, and the good thing is that you won’t be able to be fooled. This belief will be erased little by little as knowledge thus power will take its place.

    Replace it with:

I will easily be able to birth naturally, I completely trust my body to handle the process from start to finish just beautiful, peacefully with ease and continuity.

  1. Medical professionals might not listen to me.

    This is true if they see that they can take advantage of your lack of knowledge regarding your own body and power. They might say yes to your desires, but then slowly guide you towards what they want, introducing reasons that are usually not real reasons for a c-section. It’s just that is more easy for them. Who would want to attend a birth in the middle of the night after a long day of work? Which is when most births occur because that is when your body is most relaxed.

    Replace this with:

I have a doctor that listens to me, we have a good trusting connection, and has attended all natural births with love and deep understanding.

  1. The baby could be harmed during delivery.

    This could happen only if they intervene.

    If you go into your process relaxed and breezy, the baby will come out so beautiful and easy, in a natural birthing position, which is not against gravity - the one on your back on the bed. Really… choose any other.

    Replace it with:

My baby is perfectly healthy and will land in my arms just as perfectly healthy.

  1. I’ll lose control during labor.

    You don’t have any control. If you do it right. Letting your body do it’s thing is the most perfect “control” you could have, just like going to the toilet and totally trusting the process, and letting the body do its thing, while you are on your phone.

    Transform this into:

During labour I will be totally relaxed and allow my body to birth peacefully and amazingly.

  1. Epidurals might have dangerous side effects.

    It cuts your signals with your baby. He won’t be able to read your hormones if everything is ok, and you won’t feel your own birth, and you get a baby that is under the effect of that drug, so I would personally be afraid of this. And the administration of it is an entirely different story, that is the most dangerous and painful part. But if you do choose to have one (because this Is how you choose to experience birth), you must trust it and verify your beliefs about it and turn them into positive ones.If you cannot succeed to have only positive thoughts about it because you read the reality about it, then stay away from it.

    Turn it into: 

The epidural is easy to administer, and me and my baby are totally safe and healthy. We still make a great team and birth together easily.

  1. I won’t be able to bond with my baby immediately.

    In case of a natural birth, in your own terms, yes you will. Please check the procedures of the place you have chosen to give birth as you might be shocked to find out in that moment that you need to be separated from your baby at least a couple of hours if not until the next day. 
    The moment of bondage is the most sacred. If unmedicated, it will be the most amazing moment in your lives, so please… protect it like it’s everything.

    Turn it into:

I will have undisturbed minutes with my baby when I can see my baby, smell him/her, lock eyes and just admire the beauty I created unknowingly.

  1. I could tear badly during delivery.

    If you will be forced to deliver, medicated, it is most likely, as the tissues did not have their time to prepare.

    Turn this into:

I will open as much as the baby will need, ensuring that there is enough room for the passage, I will be relaxed and opened, trusting that I am in a safe place to bring this baby into this world.

  1. Breastfeeding won’t work after birth.

    Another belief that is stupid and need to be erased with knowledge. Colostrum is what happens after birth, and there are a few drops of it, as it is what the baby needs in its first few days. No supplementation needed, as you will find that they will vomit it anyway, as the stomach is so, so, so small, like a cherry. If the baby was delivered naturally, without any medication, then it will instinctively crawl or try to get to the breast. Look videos up, it is just amazing to watch. Also, learn the correct attachment and don’t be afraid to reposition your baby as many times as needed. It does not hurt. If it hurts, than the baby’s mouth is not in the correct position.


    Replace it with:

My colostrum will flow, my baby will attach perfectly and breastfeeding will be easy for me.

  1. Something will go wrong if I give birth at home.

    You should be so lucky to give birth in your own home, as it is the safest place for the birth to unfold in the most natural way possible. Again, knowledge is what lacks here. You can give birth anywhere, it does not matter, as long as you feel safe. That is the only major criteria. If you read a little about what to do in this case, your fears will shut up as will they will be no longer existent. It’s actually so easy and comes naturally to us. And birth registration is different by country so look up into that.
    The aim of Change Your Mind About Birth ebook is to make you so confident about birth that even if it happens at home or in the car, it will be easy for you.

    Replace it with:

I am confident that I can give birth anywhere, I can easily birth anywhere, because I know my body can do it effortlessly, no matter where I am.

  1. The hospital environment will feel cold and impersonal.

    Sure, if you don’t visit it beforehand or if you have any past negative experiences there. Make sure you get familiar with it so when you get there you will be able to resume your birthing process relaxed and at ease.

    Replace it with:

The place I chose to give birth is familiar and makes me feel relaxed and safe.

  1. I’ll feel isolated and unsupported during labor. 
    If you don’t know that in fact you are the only one birthing and in charge of your own birth experience, and that others are just spectators. If you need support, hire a doula. It’s the only actual person who is trained for support.  Or, if your husband feels up to it and will be trained a little, you will be successful. Isolated? You will most likely isolate yourself as you need intimacy and a place you will feel safe, like creating a small nest in your house or on the hospital bed, or besides it or even going into the bathroom as you already associate that place with intimacy and a private place where you can relax and let go.

    Replace it with:

I know I am supported during my labour and everyone wishes me and my baby well. I am surrounded by people I love and trust to hold the space for me.

  1. The baby might not be healthy. 
    Sure it will be healthy. My baby is perfectly healthy. Repeat this N times a day, your reality will be shaped on the preponderant thoughts and feelings so make sure you have positive thoughts by immediately replacing a negative one, with at least 2-5 positive ones.

    So, turn this into:

My baby is perfectly healthy.

  1. Postpartum depression is unavoidable.
    If you have a traumatic experience or if your baby had one. As we are working to have the most amazing birth ever, depression will not exist in our reality. 

    Instead:

My postpartum will be amazing, easy, I will recover immediately, I will have energy and move as easily as I always do, I will be full of love and aww for this new life and relationship. I will trust my instinct and take care of my baby while I feel good with my decisions, even if this means going against what everyone-else is telling me.

  1. I’ll be judged for my birth choices. 
    Only if you have doubts. If you are sure, then others can perceive that energy and won’t have anything to say because your mind is already convinced. If you have doubts, then this energy is perceived and there will be room for others to express their own fears and misconceptions, and misinformation. You should know that everyone is living in their own reality and people usually tend to try to convince others about their own unique reality because that is their truth. Separate the truths between realities, accept other people’s truths, choose your own and you will be fine.
    Try this instead:

I am respected and my birthing choices are respected. I am giving birth and I take full responsibility for my informed decisions.

  1. Labor will last too long and exhaust me completely.

    A normal, unhindered first birth usually lasts around 12 hours. If it takes longer, fear got in the way. This is why I put so much importance on resolving all fears, so that there is nothing to creep in when the time comes.
    It takes the body this long to ease you into this process. It starts slowly and gradually so you can get used to this new feeling. Amazing, beautiful, easy feeling. You can choose how long you want it to last.
    Replace this with:

I have energy for as long as my body and baby need, we are working together seamlessly in the fastest and easiest way for me.

  1. I won’t recognise my body after birth. 
    It will be weird at first to have an empty belly, it get sucked in in couple of days, you’ll be too sucked in also in the mom thing, so it does not matter. Give your body time. Check your beliefs here as well and decide what you want in this chapter, too. 
    My body will recover quickly and beautifully, and with a few exercises and practices I will have my most perfect body back. Check my program for that.

My body will recover quickly and beautifully, and with a few exercises and practices I will have my most perfect body back.

You can later check out my program named “I’m Getting My Body Back” which is comprised with nutrition designed for women, workouts that grow in lengh as your baby grows thus your time and other tips and practices for skin and youth.

Let me know in the chatbox if you need any guidance.