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How Do Affirmations Help Me Have a Pain-Free Birth?

When you hear something over and over again, you end up believing it.

Advertisements, for decades, are drilling the same beliefs into us.

-Like how breakfast is the most important meal of the day—it all started with an ad for cornflakes.

-Or how you need painkillers for menstruation because periods are painful. Imagine that not only did we grow up with this idea and expect pain every month, but so do all the girls growing up behind us.

-Or how we’re constantly surrounded by bacteria and viruses we should fear, making us feel we need to buy all the cleaning products.

-Or how the moment we see our first gray hair, we’re supposed to dye it.

These kinds of advertisements—and many more—have been running for decades.

So how could we possibly grow up believing anything different, when these ideas become truths simply because they’ve been repeated enough times? How could we see reality differently if this is all we’ve ever heard?

Repetition is the Key to Learning

Nothing could be truer.

The first time you hear something, it feels weird—you’re far from believing it right away. But the more often you hear it, the more familiar it becomes.

Soon, you’re already used to it, and before long, you start believing it. And once you believe it, that belief takes root in your mind and drives your actions.

-Just like you believe every period is painful and prepare ahead of time with painkillers.

-Just like you force yourself to eat breakfast even if you’re not hungry at all because you’ve learned it’s “good for you.”

-Just like you feel compelled to dye your hair a color that never really suits you, simply because “that’s what you’re supposed to do.”

-Just like you’ve heard that birth is torturous and painful, so you expect it to be nothing else. You believe that’s the only truth.

But there are other possibilities. And I’m here at your crossroads to show you that things can be different. To help you carve your own path, just as I chose not to follow everyone else—because, honestly, why would I follow others down a road that feels completely off and makes no sense?

How Do Affirmations Help?

We repeat them. Until we believe them.

We focus on them intensely in the short time we have before birth. They take root, and eventually, we start to believe that birth can be easy, simple, and even comfortable—even pain-free.

We keep repeating them. At first… they feel strange. Your whole body reacts with discomfort. You’re used to hearing completely different messages over and over again. They don’t feel familiar at all. It’s totally different from what you’ve heard up to this point. You’d love to believe it’s possible, but it just doesn’t seem real.

That’s the role of affirmations—to listen to them repeatedly until they become comfortable, until you see them as possible, until you start believing them.

Just like you’ve done with any topic in your life—only most of the time it happened unconsciously, and you didn’t even have a choice. Now you do. This is your crossroads. You can choose what to believe and train yourself daily to believe it.

Daily Practice Works

Daily practice can be applied to anything you want in your life.

Practice makes you better and better.

Until now, you’ve been practicing negative beliefs—and you know them very well. Let’s practice the positive, too.

Why Affirmations and Not Negations?

The phrases we want to repeat to ourselves to establish new beliefs must be positive. Because our brain doesn’t actually process negatives.

We avoid using any kind of negative statements or negative words like:

I’m not afraid of birth.

I won’t feel any pain during birth.

My birth won’t be complicated.

Your mind hears only the keywords: afraid – birth, pain – birth, my birth – complicated.

Think of it like a phone call with a bad connection. You have to use the right keywords to make sure your message comes through clearly, exactly as you intend.

Demo

Don’t think of a red car. Don’t think of that red car with a guy inside yelling at the wheel with his window down so you can hear everything. Don’t imagine that guy getting out of the car and stopping right in front of your house and starting to argue with another guy in a yellow car.

Were you able to NOT see that in your mind’s eye?

It’s the same with everything in life. Whatever you think, you feel. If it’s positive, it feels good. If it’s negative, it feels uncomfortable in your body. Whatever you hear repeatedly, you end up believing—even if at first, it sounded ridiculous.

How Does Daily Practice with Affirmations Work?

The more often you hear these positive statements about birth—even if at first they feel uncomfortable, strange, or even funny—the more familiar they become.

You get used to hearing them. Eventually, they stop feeling so different. They become familiar, become your inner voice, and ultimately, they become your new belief system from which you act.

Your brain is the genie from the lamp. Your thoughts are its command. Thoughts always stem from what you believe to be true. Your brain immediately tries to show you how that thought is true—and more than that, it tries to fulfill that wish at any cost. It’ll bring that thought into reality as fast as it can. Even if you’ve forgotten the thoughts you once had, you’ll find yourself surprised when those things happen.

It’s impossible to keep thinking negative thoughts most of the time and still expect good experiences.

Everything that exists today—whether objects or experiences—started as a thought.

The electric fly swatter in your house exists because someone thought to invent it.

Furniture existed first in someone’s mind.

Rugs, too.

Missing the bus first existed in your mind as a fear—whether that thought crossed your mind yesterday or last week.

We have this superpower we’re often not fully aware of. It’s a gift from God—it’s free will. And its foundation is belief. The everyday, seemingly small beliefs that create our reality.